Before the battle, we asked everyone: Which decision in life has you regretted so far?
The story of one of the readers is heart-wrenching. She has a background as a trainee in American business management. When she graduated from a prestigious school with an MBA, she got good offers in both Shanghai and Beijing, but was forced by her family to stay in a third-tier city in her hometown of northern Jiangsu.
At work, after becoming a bank account manager, she was very uncomfortable. "All colleagues go to various clubs with customers after get off work, order a few princesses and princes, and fight until the early morning..."
Emotionally, because he couldn't help the irony and emotional kidnapping at home, he had to accept a blind date.
Later, I went to a local state-owned enterprise, got pregnant, got married, and my ex-husband cheated and got divorced.
She finally returned to Shanghai, but found Latest Mailing Database that the experience of a small local state-owned enterprise is difficult to find a job in a big city. Now she is doing a job that requires only a college degree, and there are no weekends.
The young child lives with his grandmother after his ex-husband remarried, and every time the video says he misses his mother...
She also doesn't know, why is it that she has a pretty good hand, and it's getting worse and worse?
With regret, she said the following:
The so-called family love is just one's own selfish desires, either sacrificing oneself to satisfy others, or selfishly loving oneself, there is no so-called perfect balance. Now I feel sorry for myself, sorry for the children, but nothing can go back.
One wrong step, one wrong step, the game hangs and you can start all over again, but not in life.
There are always people who secretly wonder in the middle of the night, "How did I get to where I am today?" The question is too big and there is no answer, but it seems that every step has a trace to follow.
What decisions will be important turning points in your life? We conducted a survey of professionals.
The average working person becomes a manager at the age of 27, and has not improved at the age of 35... Probably abandoned by his peers
Reader @Sarah said that giving up career and self-growth for love is the most regrettable thing.
LinkedIn's Turning Point Report for Professionals found that the average age of a worker to be promoted from an ordinary employee to a manager is 26.8 years old, and the average age of promotion to a CXO/VP is 40 years old. In other words, if you are still in the most basic positions at the age of 27, you have been abandoned by your peers.
According to the report, the turning point that life may encounter begins at the age of 23, reaches a small peak at the age of 27-30, and reaches a large peak at the age of 31-35.
The odds of encountering a turning point after the age of 35 plummeted until they approached zero.
This reveals a terrifying truth: at any time in life there are possibilities, but the odds are high and low.
Maybe you will ask, after grasping the turning point, will life really get better and better?
Most people answered that they would be more determined and brave in their mentality.
An interesting finding is that the most significant positive impact of the turning point is not promotion and salary increase, but professional skills improvement and greater sense of responsibility.
This reminds me of when we interviewed Zhang Tianyi, a post-90s entrepreneur, he said:
Many people are entangled in what they do, and many people are entangled in practicing moves. I think there is actually another choice in life, practicing internal skills. What do you mean? That is to say, what I got through this bowl of beef noodle today applies as much as I go to do something else.
The three most important turning points in life: "knowledge-charged" turning point, city choice and marriage
So, what kind of choices might affect the life of a professional?